If you are struggling with an Eating Disorder, or struggling with anything else a good thing to do is a Why and Why Not List exercise.
Similar to a Pro and Con list, but the difference here is that it’s black and white.
Let’s take my Eating Disorder as an example.
- Why do I want to give up the Eating Disorder?
2. Why do I NOT want to give up the Eating Disorder?
What I mean by black and white, is that you can look at a pro and con list and not get a clear sense of what the right choice is. But with this type of thing, you do.
- I want to give up the Eating Disorder because I will die if I don’t.
- I don’t want to give up the Eating Disorder because it’s familiar.
Clear as day.
But, what you have to realize is that although the answer is obvious, the reason why I don’t want to give it up has always been very powerful.
Knowing what I know, doing what I do, the life that I have lived has to cease and change. Good or bad that is a tough thing to do. Change is scary. No matter what the outcome is.
This makes sense:
If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. ~Mary Engelbreit
When you change the way you think, you are able to change anything.